Why You Keep Attracting The Same Toxic Relationships

Guest: Joshua Wenner | Relationship Coach

Author

Gregory Carlson
March 11, 2026

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When people listen to their body, come back into relationship with themselves — authentic relationship with self — their relationships is one of the byproducts of what shifts, because they can now trust themselves versus trust their trauma responses that have been overriding their actual truth.

Joshua Wenner

Why do so many people keep attracting the same type of relationship over and over again?

In this powerful episode of The Elite League Podcast, trauma-informed relationship coach Josh Wenner explains how unresolved trauma and nervous system responses shape the partners we choose and the conflicts we experience.

Josh breaks down the hidden patterns that drive attraction, including how abandonment wounds, emotional triggers, and survival responses influence our relationships without us even realizing it.

You’ll learn why intense chemistry can sometimes signal danger rather than compatibility, how trauma shifts the brain into survival mode, and what it takes to build real emotional safety with another person.

If you want to understand your relationship patterns at a deeper level and break cycles that have followed you for years, this conversation is a must listen